In my life I’ve been both the victim and the perpetrator. I’ve been the person who inflicted the pain and I’ve been the one receiving the pain on behalf of someone else’s choice.
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It certainly was no picnic on either side. When I inflicted the pain I didn’t want to be repeatedly reminded of, and punished for my error. And when the pain was inflicted, especially if I felt the apology wasn’t sincere, I had a difficult time letting go of the offense and my anger. Especially when a trigger would arise.
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The bottom line is none of us get out of here scot-free. During the course of our lives we will, at one time be the victim, and at another time be the perpetrator.
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That being said, when the damage is done, no one gets to decide the healing time of the hurt. A sincere apology accompanied by changed behavior must be given for healing to begin. Then, patience and humility must be practiced. And the hurt in turn must work toward forgiveness.🤍
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