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I saw a post by @narcissistic_abuse_lifecoach and it spurned in me all sorts of thoughts about what I have learned and witnessed from narcissistic women. Not only do they emasculate men, they intentionally humiliate, and shame them. And they will often do it under the guise of humor. But it is ANYTHING but funny. The hardest thing to watch is a man being so blatantly disrespected and emasculated by his wife or partner.
It’s not only children with neglectful parents who have trauma. Sometimes it’s the ones with permissive parents as well. Believe it or not discipline to a child = I love and care about you. Abuse and neglect or overindulgence and permissiveness do not.
Seldom do I speak to a survivor who is not grieving their former self. Their innocence taken, and in it’s place a harsh reality about the world and people in it. It is a loss of self, while simultaneously giving us huge opportunity for growth. Staying the same means stagnation. Lean into who you are becoming and love your new self HARD 🤍
If you think people requiring the bare minimum of basic human decency and respect is “needy” YOU are the problem.
When you are getting to know someone pay close attention to how they speak about others. Not only their friends and family, but strangers as well. Do they speak kindly about others or do they put them down and criticize them? This will tell you a lot about how secure they are with themselves and how they’ll talk to others about you.
My hearts truly goes out to all of the parents and children whose relationships have been destroyed because of a hate filled, and debilitatingly insecure, venomous narcissist.